Bride’s Guide to Managing Wedding Stress: 7 Essential Tips
Welcome to the Wealth of WOW, where weddings are my passion and expertise. My journey began nearly 40 years ago as a floral designer, but soon expanded into invitations, venue décor, and full-blown wedding planning. Now, I’m thrilled to share my love for weddings here on the blog and in my upcoming book, VOWs with WOWs: 500+ WOW Ideas for Your Wedding Planning Journey.
First things first: congratulations on your engagement! The excitement is real, but let’s be honest—between oh so many Pinterest board ideas, guest lists, budgets, and family dynamics, even the calmest bride can feel overwhelmed. Fear not. With the right mindset (and some WOW magic), you can plan the wedding of your dreams without torching relationships, emptying the family savings, or losing your sense of humor.
As you embark on this journey, keep the word "fun" in mind. You are orchestrating one of the most significant days of your life, and it should be enjoyable from start to finish. After all, the fun begins with the planning!
7 Stress-Busting, Relationship-Saving Wedding Planning Tips
1. Breathe In, Breathe Out
When stress swirls around you like confetti in a wind tunnel, pause. Take a deep breath, exhale slowly, and picture yourself floating on a calm little bridal life raft. You are the captain of this ship, Goddess—steering through waves of decisions with grace and poise (and maybe a mimosa or two).
2. Delegate Like a Boss Bride
You are not a one-woman wedding planning machine. Enlist the help of your trusty sidekicks—whether it's your bridesmaids, family members, or even your furry friends (who doesn't love a ring-bearing pup?)—and transform them into your personal army of wedding warriors. Empower them to tackle tasks like seasoned pros, and watch as they conquer mountains of wedding logistics with the precision of a military operation. You earn bonus points if you can turn wedding planning into a team-building exercise!
3. Laugh It Off (Because You’ll Need To)
Let's be real: wedding planning is bound to come with its fair share of hiccups. From wardrobe malfunctions to seating chart snafus and flower bouquet fiascos, it's easy to lose your sense of humor. Instead of letting these mishaps send you into a frenzy, embrace them with a sense of humor. After all, imperfect moments make for the best stories down the road, and you are not alone; every bride has a story or three to share. You got this girl!
4. Pamper the Goddess Within
Amidst the chaos of wedding planning, it's crucial to prioritize self-care like your sanity depends on it—because it probably does! Indulge in a bubble bath so luxurious it rivals Cleopatra's ancient rituals, treat yourself to a spa day at home so lavish it puts royalty to shame, or simply curl up with a good book and a glass of wine so exquisite it would make the self-proclaimed wine connoisseurs in your bridal party jealous. Your mental and emotional well-being are non-negotiable, so treat yourself like the Goddess of love you are. Hail to Venus!
5. Practice the Art of Compromise
In the high-stakes game of wedding planning, compromise is not just a suggestion—it's a survival tactic. For the sake of matrimonial harmony, be open to negotiation and communication with your partner, even if it means sacrificing your dream of a unicorn-themed wedding cake, or a Norwegian Fjord horse sleigh ride for the female bridal party arrival with iffy winter weather conditions in your planned geographic location—not to mention asking all of the guests to wait outside in the cold to see your arrival. Some of our grand ideas need to stay in the theory phase of existence due to their practicality or feasibility of implementation.
6. Dance Away the Stress
When all else fails, and the stress threatens to consume you like a fire-breathing dragon, unleash your secret weapon: the power of dance. Crank up your favorite tunes, unleash your inner Beyoncé, and dance like nobody's watching (or like everybody's watching, and you're auditioning for a Broadway musical). Let the rhythm of the music wash away your worries and transport you to a realm of pure joy and uninhibited celebration. And if dancing is not your thing, or you need a more extreme intervention to bring you back, tackle an ultimate adventure on your bucket list and say goodbye to stress as you unleash your inner adrenaline junkie like never before!
7. Keep the Bigger Picture in View
As you navigate the sometimes challenging moments of wedding planning, remember that your wedding day is just one chapter in the epic saga of your love story. While wanting everything to be perfect is natural, try not to lose sight of the bigger picture. You may think it is all about you, but remember, many other people have also been looking forward to this moment for you and your fiancé all of their lives. The true magic of marriage lies not in the elaborate centerpieces or the meticulously planned seating arrangements but in the love and laughter shared with your partner and loved ones.
Real-Life Wedding Wisdom
Over the years, I’ve seen how a single decision can negatively ripple through family dynamics. Consider carefully the long-term consequences of decisions that relate to family and try to find a happy middle ground whenever possible. One bride, for example, decided not to include her future mother-in-law in the wedding morning hair-and-makeup session because she wanted that time reserved just for her mom. She failed to consider how much of a meaningful bonding experience this would have been with her future mother-in-law. It’s a small decision, but one with long-term impact.
As you embark on your whirlwind journey of wedding planning, remember to keep your sense of humor intact, your perspective in check, and your heart full of love. To create a low-stress wedding planning experience, mix together a generous amount of deep belly laughter, a sprinkle of humor, a touch of spontaneity, and a heap of affection for yourself and everyone concerned. Stir gently until well combined, ensuring to avoid any clumps of deep stress or tightly coiled tension. Enjoy a smooth journey, making your planning experience as joyful as your big day itself.
Imagine yourself as the conductor of your very own symphony of wedding bliss, orchestrating each note with finesse and flair. Your journey down the aisle is not just a walk—it's a grand procession of joy, love, and memories that will last a lifetime. So, take a moment to inhale deeply, don your invisible crown, and let the enchantment of your wedding day unfold in all its WOW-worthy splendor!
Goddess Takeaway
As you navigate your whirlwind journey of wedding planning, remember this: relationships are forever—eyelashes, linens, and even napkin colors are not. I contribute to more than twenty bridal groups, and I see it time and time again: one rushed decision can ripple through family dynamics for years to come.
So, go hard on the problem, soft on the people. Pause, breathe, and ask yourself: “Will this choice matter in a few years? Or will kindness serve me better?”
Your recipe for a joyful, stress-light planning experience? A generous scoop of belly laughter, a sprinkle of humor, a splash of spontaneity, and a heaping dose of affection for yourself and everyone around you. Stir gently, serve with champagne, and enjoy the WOW-worthy memories you’re creating. Cheers to your happily ever after!
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So, my fellow Goddess, go forth with these newfound suggestions, and may your journey be adorned with the warmth of self-love and the glow of family warmth to embrace your wedding journey.
Live Bold and Shine Brightly like the Goddess you are!
Love, Positive Paula
Author/Mentor/Entrepreneur/Chief Positivity Officer (CPO) of Wealth of WOW
PS As I continue to write my VOWs with WOWs book, I would love to hear about any WOWs planned for your wedding or something you witnessed at a wedding you have attended in the past. If you have a share, please email me at paula@wealthofwow.com.
